I hear you. You were honest with me after you felt safe enough to be. I think this is a question of values- sometimes we're given an opportunity to decide if we value honesty even if we don't get what we want, or if we value control more than honesty. There's no right or wrong when it comes to this, but there is a greater question of how you might want to be treated by others in relationship. If you value others being honest with you, and if you know that you are able to be honest when safety is present, maybe focusing more on building safety through honesty will lead to fulfilling relationships rather than getting answers through dishonesty which can lead to shaky ground in relationship.